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Being a “Yes Man” isn’t always a bad thing.

July 27, 2012 4 Comments

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I know it came out a few years ago, but we only recently saw the movie Yes Man, with Jim Carrey.

The premise of the story is that a guy who normally said no to everything was going to say “yes!” to every opportunity that presented itself, and his entire life turns around for the better.  I thought it was uncomfortably funny, but Handsome Hubby took a detour off of Sophomoric Humor Lane and actually found something thought provoking.

What was the lesson that has stayed with him?  To say “yes” more often when the boys ask him to do something with them… Grant in particular.

Last week while camping, Grant wanted to go fishing.  HH took him and let him pick the spot.  Grant wanted to fish from a wooden bridge because it certainly looked the part. (God bless his little romantic soul.)  HH told him that it was actually a bad place to fish, but Grant insisted.  How an 8 year old has a Norman Rockwell image in his mind, I don’t know, but HH set him up to fish there.

HH waited patiently for 2 hours while Grant got the Norman Rockwell Ideal Fishing Images out of his head.  The child did not catch a single fish from that bridge (not even a nibble), but HH let him stay there until he was ready to move on.  Which eventually they did, AND Grant caught a fish, AND he learned how to clean it.

Even as amazing as it was to catch a fish and let Dad teach him  how to clean it, I think that Grant will remember the experience of fishing from that bridge more than he will remember actually catching the fish.

HH shared this Yes Dad epiphany with one of his friends, who mentally digested it a few days and then implemented it with one of his daughters.

The following was a text exchange between them.

Friend: Hey pal, having  date night w my 5 y.o. girl and saying yes to every ridiculous request…thanks for the tip.

HH: Sounds awesome. Hope you truly enjoy it.

Friend: It wasn’t enough to just buy the toy mermaid, but we had to walk down to the beach to play where she lived… I said “okay, but you’ll get sand in your nice shoes.”  Appropriately, she smiled and said: “who cares?”

That. Is. Awesome.
(I guess I should work on being a better Yes Mom.)

Filed Under: Grant, Handsome Hubby, parenting

Comments

  1. MiMi says

    July 27, 2012 at 7:25 PM

    I work really hard to be a Yes mom. There are some things that are so small that you can say Yes to and it makes the kids’ day.
    And C.J. works hard to be a Yes dad when it comes to playing with the boys. 🙂

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  2. Chris says

    July 27, 2012 at 10:29 PM

    great great post and I’ll check out that movie.

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  3. At The Picket Fence says

    July 28, 2012 at 12:44 AM

    Seriously, SERIOUSLY love this Vivienne! My hubby is definitely a better “yes” parent when it comes to the kiddos and I think it is just so much harder for us mamas to be that way. I’m trying to do that more with my kids, especially as I realize how quickly it is all going and soon I will be the one hoping they will say “yes” to hanging out with me! 🙂
    Vanessa

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  4. Good Time Charlie says

    July 28, 2012 at 5:31 AM

    I am with Vanessa. My goal for this summer was to be much more of a Yes mom. I did a lot more yessing that I have done in years past. I definitely improved a lot! I didn’t take on contract work this summer, and I really enjoyed my kids in the summertime far more than I have in the past. I did however still have to keep up the other part of my business. That is something I will always feel torn with. It is so integral to me being me to paint and create, but I can’t seem to find the right balance between being the Yes mom and keeping myself sane with my own work. This post is a great reminder to try to have far more Yesses than No’s. With that in mind, I am going to bed, so I will have energy to say Yes to all those kid requests tomorrow.

    PS My kids go back to school Tuesday, this means I can start saying a lot more “Yes” to reading my favorite blogs! (which I have had to say “no” to because there just wasn’t enough time!)

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