My husband and I are very proud of all our children. They are sweet, and talented, and engaging… and frustrating, and messy, and exasperating… I think all parents try to strike a balance of viewing their child in the moment, while trying to imagine the possibilities that lay before them.
Conner asked his High School Principal for a reference letter. What follows is nothing short of poetry. This isn’t a simple letter of recommendation – it’s quite possibly the most beautiful description of my child I have ever heard. This letter had me in tears. (Quite literally. I cried.)
This is the stuff that makes for motivational graduation speeches. This is the stuff that a parent thinks about their child but isn’t necessarily capable of articulating. This is the stuff that makes you actually see your child with a bit more clarity and appreciation for him.
As his mother, my assumption is that I already see and appreciate all of Conner’s amazing qualities and the little things that make him special… in other words, you probably can’t tell me anything about my son that I don’t already know. This letter not only reaffirmed that Conner is a great kid, it allowed me to view him with a fresh set of eyes and to realize that “jumping into a massive pile of leaves” might be messy, but it is a necessary part of Conner’s process, and that the “scraped knees” that he gets are part of his journey.
Conner (and Devin, and Mitch and Grant) are all going to go through their own processes on their own journeys, and I should watch it all with wonderment and awe as they do it. I am profoundly grateful for the Dr. Arnolds of this world who take the time to support, encourage and nurture our children.
This beautiful letter? It’s getting framed and going up on a wall. Thank you, Dr. Arnold, for this lovely description of one of my favorite human beings.