Should I pick Devin’s graduation day?
That’s a big day, right? My first born graduating from high school… yep. A big deal, but not the moment.
How about any number of the times where I am reminded that I have been fortunate enough to have married my best friend…?
There have been so many good moments that are meaningful. Good, happy times that are filled with gratitude for all of our blessings… but I realized that my most meaningful moment has come as the result of sadness, not happiness.
Let me explain.
I’m usually pretty happy and easy-go-lucky on my blog, but there’s lots of “real life” going on over here at The V Spot. Many of you may know that Handsome Hubby and I were high school sweeties that reconnected later in life, and that Devin and Conner are my children from my first marriage.
What most of you don’t know is that my ex-husband, Devin and Conner’s dad, is in end stage colon cancer.
Since 2008 Devin and Conner have been coming to terms with all of the brutal reality that cancer often brings. They spend every weekend visiting their dad. They have watched him go through chemotherapy, multiple surgeries and countless hospital stays. You may be asking, “What’s meaningful about that?”
In this past year, I have realized that my boys are stronger than I ever could have imagined…
They stay next to their dad’s bedside just to simply be with him… They talk to him when he’s awake, or they sit while he sleeps so that he knows they’re there when he wakes up.
They have realized there is a level of role-reversal that has taken place and that they are up to the challenge of “taking care” of their dad.
Not only are they being compassionate and loving to their father, they are open with me and with Handsome Hubby about what is going on, emotionally. They talk through their feelings and sort through complicated emotions. They come to us during the week to vent and receive some comfort, and in so doing, they are equipped to return to their dad’s beside on the weekends and bring comfort to him.
They have also been searching spiritually and finding comfort in a relationship with the Lord and trusting that He has a plan and that even sadness is perfect if it is serving His plan.
So the moment that has become the most meaningful to me this year, is the moment that I realized these two sweet little boys…
…have grown into strong, resilient young men of great character.
As a parent, that’s pretty darn meaningful.